Ever been told “people can’t change”—maybe after a screw-up, a relapse, or a sugar binge that turned into a week-long “snack-cation”? Yeah, it stings. And honestly? It’s garbage advice.
People can change. You can change. Hell, you’ve already changed hundreds of times. You just didn’t post a transformation photo with a #GrindSet hashtag, so no one clapped for you.
Let’s get into it.
The Myth of “Fixed Forever”
Let’s smash this tired cliché: “You are who you are, and people never change.”
That’s cute. But also—complete nonsense.
We change constantly:
- Our bodies change (have you seen your high school photos?)
- Our beliefs change (thank God)
- Our priorities shift like unstable WiFi signals
Even the brain—the big, moody HQ upstairs—is literally wired to change. It’s called neuroplasticity, and it’s how your brain forms new habits, breaks old patterns, and rewrites the doom scripts it’s been running since 2003.
💡 Did you know? Research from Harvard confirms the brain can change itself through consistent effort and learning—no matter your age.
Change Takes Time (So Ditch the Microwave Mindset)
The problem? We want transformation to be fast, glamorous, and preferably monetized. But that’s not how real change works.
Change is slow. Messy. Sometimes you move two steps forward and then accidentally sleepwalk into a donut shop. And that’s okay.
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being persistent.
Want to know what doesn’t work? White-knuckling your way through life thinking sheer willpower will save you. Willpower is like your phone battery—it drains FAST under pressure.
Instead, focus on:
- Micro-changes: Stack tiny wins (like drinking more water or journaling for 5 mins)
- Support: Let people in, even if your instinct is to hide and binge-watch pain away
- Self-compassion: Talk to yourself like you would a friend. No one thrives under a dictator.
Real Talk: Change Starts With Mindset
This part’s not sexy, but it’s critical: mindset is your engine. If it’s clogged with crap like “I’ll always fail” or “I’m too old/far gone/stuck,” then guess what? You’ll stall.
But when you decide to believe that change is possible—even if it’s uncomfortable and takes time—everything else starts to align.
🔗 Check out this post from Psychology Today: people change when they’re emotionally invested. Period.
So What If You’ve Messed Up 100 Times?
Who hasn’t? If perfection was the standard, Earth would be empty.
We glorify the “before and after” pics but ignore the hundreds of invisible in-betweens. The breakdowns. The “screw this” days. The relapses. All of it.
Let me be clear: falling off track doesn’t make you weak. Staying down because of shame? That’s what keeps you stuck.
So yeah—maybe you’ve tried and failed before. Try again. Try differently. Try slower. But for f**k’s sake, don’t quit just because it wasn’t instant.
What You Can Do (Today, Not Next Monday)
Start with one small change. Something laughably doable:
- Switch one meal to something nourishing
- Journal how you want to feel this year
- Tell someone you trust you’re working on yourself
- Hell, just unfollow someone toxic
Need more guidance? If you’re navigating change and tired of doing it solo—download the free guide that’s helped dozens of folks build momentum without losing their minds.
Final Words: You’re Not a Lost Cause
You’ve been through s**t. You’ve probably said things you regret, ghosted your own goals, and doubted your worth more times than you’d admit.
But here’s the kicker: You’re still here. Still thinking. Still wanting change.
That’s enough.
Don’t let the world convince you that change is a fantasy. You’re proof it’s real—just by reading this far.
👉 Read this next: Why Burnout Isn’t Laziness—It’s a Warning Sign
Speak to you very soon 🙂